Lonely vs Friends

Happened to listen to the song.. Lonely.. by chipmunks..
Happened to received an SMS from a long miss fren, she told me she is lonely after started working..
Happened to talk to a fren, whom she ask me if I am lonely..

I pondered..

True.. Since I started working, other than tasks on hand, meetings to attend, seminars to listen, family, boyfren, friends to care.. What else have I been doing?

I miss my life in Uni, because I have people around me, where we can spend time together.. Movie, KaraOK, grocery shopping, travels.. even when I sleep, i have my roommate with me.. so you name it.. not even a single moment I felt lonely..

I never thought that my life in KL is lonely.. I never thought that my working life is lonely.. Until those events listed happened..

Maybe because I am lonely,
- I feel like staying at work longer and keep my brain occupied
- I like to talk whenever I meet someone, coz I cant seem to be quiet too long
- I like to get my hands on some tasks, just in case I feel bored then definitely will lead to sad feelings
- I dont feel like waking up in the morning to go to work
- I just wont enjoy Sundays coz Monday is next
- I just love Thursday, because Friday is next
- I shut down on Saturday, because that is the only day I could forget that I am working...

I guess that happens to all individual.. or at least people like me who enjoy people's accompany. At least that friend who sms me, she is also such person..

I started working 2 months ago.. and in the beginning it was alright.. im happy with my job, even though that wasnt my choice..after then i realise, I am reali not enjoying it at all.. well, it is negative, but thats how i felt, yet I push myself, and tell myself, one day I will enjoy it =)

Good friends are hard to find.. In sydney, in the Buddhist society, everyone is good people.. everyone treats everyone well.. too good to be true.. and it is a perfect world in UNIBUDS.. But once you started working, the world is a complete darkness.. Searching for True friends?

How do you define friends?

After started working.. I realised there are few types of friends..

Type#1 Colleagues
Less expected, these frenz exist because you are working! They work together with you, it can be your teammates, can be people sitting around you in your office. Chit chat with them? maybe not so often, but simple daily chats maybe yes. They are maybe the ones made you stress most, coz you deal with them, you are kinda close with them, and to maintain a good working relationship, you tend to "forgive" them "reluctantly" and scold them in your heart...... =P But they are your frens =D

Type#2 Gossip Friends
Oh these kind of frenz are dangerous.. but we love to have them around.. coz it creates some laughters and reduce some stress level in yourself and work environment. sometimes, we gossip too much.. and we judge people by its cover.. we listen to wat people say, then suddenly we have the same view as them... hmm.. how interesting our human mind is..

Type#3 Mentor Friends
These frenz are frens that provide you support at your workplace, especially your personal development, your career advancement and job related issues. They are normally people elder than you, more experienced people, seniors, or even your boss.. they are the ones give you advices, telling you do's and dont's.. telling your their worst experiences, and scare you off.. but when you think about it, you know they are right..

Type#4 Sharing Friends
This type of frenz are normally those that has a different workscope from you, different department, or different area of technical skills. These fren is the hardest to find, for we seldom mingle with people outside our own comfort zone - our department/team. However, if you found them, lucky you! They will be the one that you can share and pour everything that is in your heart and mind to them. They will be able to listen to you, and give you support as you need. They will also provide you shoulders, tissue, and comfort whenever you need it.. They may not be able to fully understand your conditions, but throwing everything to them just lighten half of your burden, and bring you a smile. =) Problems may not be solved, but their care is there to make you feel "you are not alone". They never feel bored, yet they feels happy when you talk to them. If you found a true sharing fren, they will even pour their stories to you. Sharing is caring =) You will feel really glad to find someone like this.. It takes time, but have faith, you will someday!

Type#5 Enemy Friends
These type of frenz are normally same discipline as you, or same workscope. Their achievement is your KPI. haha... You don't want to lose, hence you work hard to be at the frontline, or same line as them. They maybe also the one who take you as their benchmark, and fight agaist you. Yet, the fight is only imaginery. On the surface, you are still friends with them.. Sometimes, they turned and become your enemy, by having better achievements at work, and then you ended up at the bottom, while they climb slowly upwards.. before you realise, you are no longer on par with them... be careful with these type of frenz too! they like to seek help from you, they also like to take advantage of you, or backstab you.. especially if you are such a kind person, like me.... =P

and the list goes on.. still yet to discover different types of frenz...

People who just started working, dun give up yet.. the loneliness is there, but it will not be forever, dun worry. People who have started working, I am sure you already have all these in mind.. Just in case you are not, hope this blog give you some light blub realisations.. hehe...

I am lonely sometimes because working is not like studying.. where you can have your frenz 24hours with you.. You just gotta get your tasks done! But because i found few #4 friends, I am at least not lonely during lunch time, meetings, after work, seminars... hehe~

Metta to everyone.. May all find inner peace =)